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Team Spirit

Our camp wedding is going to involve lots of fun and games and a fair bit of friendly family competition. While my side might have the advantage in sheer numbers, Mr. Veggie’s side has quite a few good athletes, so its looking to be a good match up. We have several events planned for the weekend. The morning of our rehearsal dinner the camp is going to set up a multi-event relay for our immediate families and bridal party involving silly stunts and heroic athletic feats. At the rehearsal dinner itself we are having a chili cook-off and microbrew competition. A few rounds of flip cup and frisbeer might also find their way into the evening. But the main event (besides our wedding) will be the bride v. groom softball game, to take place at 10am the morning of the wedding. Yes people will have to choose sides. For some it will be an easy choice. For others, it will be heartwrenching.

Question: How will we know what side they chose? How will I know who to heckle (and possibly sabotage) and who to cheer on?
Answer: Team uniforms.

As soon as I mentioned the idea to the Veggie Sisters and Momma Veggie they were 100% on board. Aren’t they great? They suggested some websites where we could have shirts made. But, you know me. Ordering new shirts just isn’t my style. We are going for eco and thrifty after all. So I came up with a plan to make them. Luckily Momma Veggie was still on board (did I mention how great she is?).

One trip to Salvation Army and Michael’s later and we had everything we needed to make the uniforms. We went with pink for Team Bride and blue for Team Groom. I know, I know, so cliché. I don’t even like pink. But obvious is good sometimes.

All of the shirts were blank except for this one, which is especially for Veggie Bro bridesman. It has ruffles. And says “Sweetie Pie”. Sweet. We only bought shirts that were half off so we spent about $1.50 per shirt and bought a total of 22 shirts. At Michael’s we picked up some white and black paint and sponge brushes. We couldn’t find the exact stencils we wanted, so in a moment of crafting naievety we decided we could just make them ourselves back at home.

Note to all budget savvy brides: Buy. The. Stencils. Printing and cutting them out is do-able, but it takes for-ev-er. This is me exact-o-knifing my little heart out. I think I have early onset arthritis because of this project.

And here’s Momma Veggie doing some touch ups after spreading, stenciling, and sponging. And what was the rest of the Veggie family doing while we were working so hard in our maquilladora? Sitting on their tooshies. Watching t.v. to be exact. Watching America’s got talent to be more exact. (I know I’m embarrassed for them).

But after some prodding Veggie Sister Eggplant and Stepdad Veggie pulled through in a major way. They went out and brought back some red cows from the gelato store up the street. Sweet!

And here is a small sample of the finished product. Veggie Guests, you better be ready to bring it!

On A Jet Plane

By the time you read this I will be somewhere over the Pacific on my way back to the U.S. to begin the 8 week countdown to our big day. After about 30 hours of travel I will touch down in Washington D.C. only 4 hours after I take off from Auckland. Weird. Mr. Veggie needs to stay behind for a little longer because of his studies so he’ll be staying here and we’ll be apart for 6 weeks. Bummer. And then, when he gets to the states, it will only be 2 weeks until we get married. Weird.

The last few days have been busy. With farewell celebrations…

Monday NightPotluck Dinners are the best.

Tuesday Night

No, Ladies nights with clothing swaps, wine, and chocolate are the best. Note: Don’t go to a clothing swap the day before you need to pack for a long trip. It will just make your life more difficult.

Wednesday Night

Wrong Again. Quiet nights alone with Mr. Veggie are the absolute best.

Packing lots of clothes and a few wedding details.

Lamp in a box.

Dress in a bag. Are you o.k. in there? Can you breathe?

And the thousand other last minutes things that come up when you’re about to make a big trip.

See ya New Zealand! Next time you see my face, I’ll be a wife. And hive, next time you see my face I will be in our nation’s capitol. Talk to you in a few days when I’ve recovered from the jet lag.

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Don’t worry Redhead’s, I wont be trying to ingest your product. Although a product that is all natural and also promises to reduce odour (with a “u”) is pretty tempting. And I’m sure Mr. Veggie wouldn’t mind the reduced risk of flare-ups. They’ve been happening more and more frequently as the wedding approaches.

By the way, I’d like to thank you for your corporate sponsorship of New Zealand’s “hug a ginger day”. I’m assuming you’re the ones behind it, right?

Oh, and Redhead’s, I find your sexy packaging and very small “not for human consumption” label (hidden away on the back side of the bag) a tad misleading. I was almost duped by the seductress on the front into thinking that I too could have fantastic cat-eyes and slim shoulders. But then I read the fine print. If only I was a BBQ Drip Tray. Darn you karma for making me a human. Maybe next time.

Who can I thank for this wonderful product and the hilarity it prompted? Ah yes. Thanks again Australia. Another fine contribution to the world from our neighbors to the west. Hmm…”all natural”, “made in Australia”…do you think any kangaroos, wallabies, koalas, or platypi were harmed in the making of this product? Likely, very likely.

* I am not being paid by Redhead’s for this product placement. Although, if you’re out there Redhead’s, I am available for print ads, and t.v. commercials (my American accent probably wouldn’t go over so well on radio).

In all seriousness hope that all of you who are working hard to be your healthiest selves for wedding day have come across some better ideas than this. If so, I’d love to hear how its going for you. My efforts have been bit lackluster of late and I could use some motivation.

Non-Tradition-al

Mr. Veggie and I sat down this week to begin thinking about our ceremony. And, we’re feeling a little, um, culturally poor. While some brides and grooms are able to draw from a wealth of meaningful cultural or religious traditions when planning their ceremony, we secular results of the American melting pot are feeling just a little bit in the dark.

I mean, sure we’re Americans, but what exactly does that mean culturally? What are American cultural traditions and just how would such traditions come across in a wedding? I certainly doubt that our organic, loca-vore, eco-friendly wedding will reflect the values of a Mickey D’s-MTV-SUV nation.

So what are we left with? A blank slate? Not exactly.

I am half Latvian and half everything else, and Mr. Veggie is half Welsh and half French. (Hmm… what would a Latvian-French-Welsh wedding look like? Tom Jones in a beret drinking vodka? I digress). But, having not grown up surrounded by these cultures, the traditions of our distant and not-so-distant European ancestors are, well… foreign.

Welcome to my brain. Pictures gathered from here, here, and here, and lovingly doctored by me.

We are Americans, and as Mr. Veggie recently pointed out, having both been born on Turtle Island, are “native” Americans in that sense. We feel strong emotional ties that bond us to the mountains, rivers, forests, and lakes that helped us become who we are today. Moreover, our beliefs and values are closely aligned with the cyclical world-view associated with the indigenous cultures of North America. But, while both of us have had powerful connections at various points in our lives with Native American culture, genetically only one of us holds mere 1/32nd of Native American heredity (Who’d have imagined a ginger-haired squaw?).

I gather that with a little research, I most likely will discover some Native American and possibly even early colonial American, or latter day American marriage rites that ring true to us. I may even dig up some Latvian, Welsh, or French traditions too good to pass up. And we’ve actually already thought of a Maori tradition we’d like to include to represent our time in New Zealand. But it all seems a bit contrived. Are traditions still traditions when you pick and choose the ones you want to follow?

I suppose I could be thankful that we don’t feel pressured to include outlandish cultural elements into our big day. But really I just feel at a loss. How do we create an intimate special ceremony, that conveys our belief system and pays homage to elements of our heritage without making us look like giant posers?

NWR- A Smile to Start Your Work Week

We had a Halloween Party here this weekend to coincide more closely to our autumnal transition into winter. (October 31st is spring here, and Halloween then always feels a bit funny).

Anyhow, I dressed as Wonder Woman. Me practicing my moves:Confused Wonder Woman. Angry Wonder Woman. I-just-knocked-you out Wonder Woman.

And Mr. Veggie? You can’t really see his purple wings and skirt in this picture. He told everyone that he dressed as “An obliging Fiancé”. But really he was dressed as… (Make your guesses below). What a guy!

Hope that you are enjoying your transition into summer as much as we are enjoying the approaching colder weather. Have a great Monday!

Autumn Update

It is autumn in New Zealand.

Mr. Veggie and I just spent a weekend away for his birthday.

We visited with friends, some newly married, one recently widowed.

They helped us dive into deep conversations about marriage, our relationship, and our future.

We asked each other difficult questions, revealed fears, and explored dreams in a way we haven’t done since we were first dating.

It felt so good to take time out and reconnect again.

We should do it more often.

We are in love.

How to Be Inspirational (An Inspiration Board Tutorial and Housetruck tour)

How I am keeping myself sane while I wait for my dress to get here. (The dress that supposedly arrived in New Zealand 8 days ago, but has yet to make it to my PO Box)…
The two most frequently asked questions I’ve gotten not the ‘bee are “Can you explain your housetruck?” and “How do you make your inspiration boards?”. So I thought I’d kill two birds with one stone and do a little inspiration board tutorial using our cozy little house truck as subject matter.

So, I’m no graphic designer, and I don’t have any fancy programs. So take my novice advice with a grain of salt. I use Microsoft Word, but these instructions would apply easily to powerpoint, if you prefer. And of course there are a million other ways to do these (including handy on-line inspiration board makers). I’m going to make this tutorial assuming complete computer illiteracy, so pardon any redundancy or explaining of silly details that are obvious.
I start with a blank document and change it to “landscape” (File – Page Setup – Orientation). Before I do anything else I always make sure that my formatting palette it showing. It just makes life much easier (View – Formatting Palette). This might also be a trivial detail, but when I’m doing a board I also like to make sure that I can see the entire page (View – Zoom – Whole Page).

Now I’m almost ready to start. The final thing I do, before gathering images, is to add a page break. This is helpful so that you have one page to put all of your images, and one page to make your actual board (Insert – Break – Page Break).
OK, now I’m ready to add some images. Here’s where stalking all those wedding blogs for months on end comes in handy. To grab an image off of a website the easiest thing to do is use your right mouse button to click on the image (Control+click if you have a mac), a menu will pop up and will allow you to “Save As”. Make sure to save the images in a place you can find them later. Is this too much detail?? Oh well, I’ll continue.
Some tricky websites make it so that you cannot save their pictures using a right click. This is where it gets a bit tougher. Those of you who have Macs can do a “screen shot” (Command+Shift+4). A crosshairs will come up and anything you select on the screen will become an image that gets automatically saved to your desktop. Some PC’s have a similar tool on the keyboard that is called “Print Screen” which will essentially take a photo of your entire screen and save it.
I guess my only suggestions in regards to collecting images is to keep in mind that inspiration can come from anywhere, not just wedding websites. Design blogs, your favorite clothing stores, and even news websites can provide great inspiration images. Its best to have too many images rather than too few.
So now we have a bunch of images saved to our computer ( I often have too many, but no worries). Let’s start putting them on the board. To insert a picture go to Insert – Picture – From File. Then you can find the image where you saved it onto your computer and add it onto the page.

Once the image is on the page use your right mouse button (or Control+click for Macs) to click on the picture. A menu will come up. Click on Format Picture – Layout – In Front of Text.

This will allow you to move the picture anywhere on the screen. At this point I usually resize it by clicking and dragging one of the corners to make it a manageable size and move it over to the right side of the screen so that it is out of the way. Then I repeat these steps until I have about 20-30 images on the page.
Occasionally you might get a picture that shows up sideways. In that case, after you format it to make it in front of the text, click on the picture. You will notice that your formatting palette gives you lots of options. In the menu “Size, Rotation, and Ordering”, choose “rotation”. You can either turn your picture 90 degrees right or left, or using the free rotate tool grab one of the corners of your picture and spin it.
So at this point you’ll have a crap-ton of pictures in a pile on your page. I like to sort them now so I can figure out which ones will actually end up on the board.

Then I drag all of my favorites down onto the second page, and try to make them all fit. It’s not too important to get the sizes right at this point, and its not even too important if they overlap.
During this process you can start to crop your images to make them fit better. To crop an image click on the picture, you will notice that in your formatting palette there is a section called “image” there you will find a tool called “crop”. Click on that icon and then you can chop off parts of the images that you don’t want by clicking on the image and dragging the sides in. Here I’ve cropped the picture of the ladder up to our bed.

Once I’ve crammed as many pictures on the page that I think will fit I take a look at it and start getting rid of images. I never delete the pics, just move them up to the first page, so that if I need them as space fillers later, I can come back to them. You might delete photos that don’t quite fit with the overall color scheme, that seem redundant, or that you just don’t like as much.
On this housetruck board once I looked at the pics, I realized I had chosen a lot of food images as my favorites. What can I say? We’re proud of our garden. I eliminated those to focus more on the actual housetruck.
Now you will have some blank spots, which will give you some room to maneuver the pictures. I usually try to pick a central image that most conveys what I’m trying to get across, and make that the largest image. Also keep in mind that images with a lot of detail will need to be larger than simpler images. (For example the interior shot of our house needed to be quite big so that you could see the details).
I would also say, that sometimes less is more. A well- thought out collection of select images may convey a stronger idea than a collage of many images.
Once I pick my one or two large images, I position them on the page and move the other images to the center. In my mind I then dived the page into rectangles. This makes it easy to place your remaining pictures.

Working on one rectangle at a time, I move, resize, and crop the pictures to fit. Don’t be afraid to crop the heck out of your images. Once I have filled a rectangle I move onto the next. I end up discarding a lot of images during this process.

Eventually, after a lot of trial and error I end up with something that looks like this. I think that somewhere between 8-16 images is ideal, depending on the size and detail of the images.
Now you’re nearly finished. I often like to add a background to my boards. I find that fabric samples, textures, or even plain colors can give the board some extra oomph. To add a color background, choose “Add Object” on the formatting palette, and then click on the little picture of the circle and square. A menu will pop up with options of shapes you can add. Choose the square and draw a giant rectangle that covers your whole page. Click on that square and then look on your formatting palette for the section that says “Colors, Weights, and Fills”. Change the fill color to whatever you want. You can even make it a pattern, or an image, using the “fill effects” option (I’ve chosen black because my board is quite busy already). You’ll then have a giant rectangle covering the page in whatever color/ pattern you chose. To get it behind your images just right click on it to get a menu, choose “arrange” and then “send to back”.
The final thing I often do is to add a line around my pictures. To do this press the shift button while clicking on each of your images until all of them are selected. Then look on your formatting palette for “Colors, Weights, and Fills”, and click on Line to change the line color.
Now you’re done. The last thing you have to do is make it an image so you can post it to the ‘bee. I am a mac user so I do this using the “Screen Shot” feature (Command+Shift+4). However, if you are on a PC you can go to File-Print-PDF, and word will save your file as a PDF. Once you reopen the document in adobe you should be able to save it as another kind of file (like a jpg or png) using the save as feature. Note that you might have to resize your margins because adobe likes to chop things off.

Whew, that was long. Happy Inspirationing!

Wife

Mr. Veggie and I are in that weird place where we’re not quite sure what to call each other in public. “Boyfriend”/”girlfriend” sounds like he just asked me to the eighth grade dance. And I certainly can’t use our pet names in public. (Immigration: Why are you applying for this visa. Me: My um… lovey… is a full-time student?)

But “fiance” has just never sounded right to us. Plus, if I introduce myself as Mr. Veg’s fiance it inevitably leads to long conversations about wedding planning and proposals and sometimes I just don’t want to get into all that with strangers (that’s why I have the hive, right?).

Luckily here in New Zealand the use of the word “partner” is fairly common, and we’ve taken to using that pretty often. But it does sound pretty formal, and since I have a boyish name can lead to some mild, yet entertaining, confusion.

So, we don’t really have this problem solved, but occasionally if I’m talking to a stranger, who I’ll likely never see again, and Mr. Veggie is out of earshot, and it just seems convenient, I’ll label Mr. Veggie as my “husband”.

I don’t do it very often, but when I do it always makes me smile. I get a little giddy. I feel mischievous. It’s like shaking your Christmas presents to try to figure out what’s inside (which I never do) or skipping ahead to the last page of a novel to find out the ending (which sometimes I do). I get a little embarrassed and look around to see if anyone we know might have overheard my white lie.

But yesterday, when we got to the check-out at the supermarket, each struggling with our overloaded baskets because we definitely weren’t going to buy enough to justify a full shopping cart, I, of course, decided I needed to go back to grab one more thing. Mr. Veg started to unload his 50 kg basket onto the conveyor belt and a woman stepped behind him in the line. I was coming back up the aisle and overheard this tidbit.

Mr. Veggie: “Um excuse me, but my wife just ran to grab one more thing, she’ll be right back”.

Be still my heart. He does it too! I melted.

I am calm. Really I am.

I don’t know if you bees remember, but down here on the farm us Veggies were having a bit of a venue crisis. After much crying, and begging, and more crying, and supportive words from Mr. Veggie, it became clear that we were not going to get our date at our venue.

I tested out a mantra: “I am calm. I am at peace. All is well.”

We were left with two options, find a new venue or switch dates. I was a mess.

Should we stick with the same venue and move our wedding to September, even though this would be extremely inconvenient for our friends and family who work at prep schools? Or should we backtrack and try to find another venue even though I felt as though I’d contacted every camp on this side of the Mississippi?

At this point I was repeating that mantra like a full-fledged Buddhist monk.

Funny enough my biggest concern through all of this was our STD’s. In the back of my mind I was pretty sure we would find another venue or that somehow the date would work out, but I was absolutely distraught at the idea of re-sending out STD’s. I’m not really a crier. But we’re talking full-on tantrum here.

After a few days (weeks) of thought I think I’ve figured out why I was so upset.

It all goes back to me generally not being good at completing projects, and me seeming to attract little mix-ups like this, and most of all putting way too much pressure on myself to make the wedding perfect. I’m an ADHD over-achiever, with some serious self-doubts when it comes to the ability to follow things through. I was viewing the wedding as an opportunity to show off the detail-focused, budget and time responsible, grown up version of me. Resending the STD’s would flaw our perfect wedding image from the very start.

Of course, in the moment I couldn’t put words to any of that, but now that the venue crisis is over, I can say “Miss Veggie, chill out”. The wedding is a wedding, nothing more, nothing less. It’s an opportunity for us to be surrounded by people we love, eating good food, dancing, and listening to good music.

Oh yeah, did I mention that our venue crisis is over? O-V-E-R.

The Veggie crew far and wide pulled together once they heard that our venue basically booted us from our date. While Mr. Veggie and I were debating the possibility of changing dates and staying at the same venue, some amazing veggie friends and family sprung into action researching other summer camp options. For two weeks they (and we) called, emailed, and googled their little hearts out. And, in the end, it all worked out for the better.

I’ll unveil our new venue shortly. Mr. Veggie is afraid we’ll jinx it if we announce too soon, and I can’t say I blame him. So, I’m testing out a new technique… I think they call it patience. It’s a new one for me. I’ll let you know how it works out.

Work it!

Me: “Look at me and think about how you’re going to feel the day we get married”.

The camera comes out and suddenly Mr. Veggie’s smile looks like the Joker. Me: “Relax your cheeks”. Him: “They are relaxed”

All photos taken by the amazing Ross in exchange for a beer and a bowl of veggie chili.

Which do you like? Which would you use? Hah! That’s a trick question because the one we actually chose isn’t posted here. You’ll just have to wait to see it.