After a hard day’s work she’s not too tired to come home from her very professional job and walk through her super nice neighborhood with me and rummage through her neighbor’s recycling for tins cans for the centerpieces. Sure it might be embarrassing, but what are sisters for? She’s great!
Part of having a low eco-footprint wedding was figuring out what to do about dresses for our four bridesmaids, groomsmaid, and three moms of honor.
Here is the ideal situation as it played out in my head:
I send out an email inviting all of the veggie sisters to be bridesmaids. I send them a brief email explaining the concept of mismatched bridesmaids dresses. They talk amongst themselves, the groomsmaid, and the veggie moms and discover that all of them already own dresses made from eco-friendly materials and purchased from companies that support fair trade practices. And what luck! These dresses happen to be in colors that don’t clash with each other and fall within our wedding color scheme. On our big day they pull said dresses out of their closets. They look gorgeous. Since the dresses are already a part of their clothing artillery, they are used many more times and loved thoroughly.
I email the veggie sisters giving a less-than-clear idea of what I am looking for. They talk amongst themselves and finally tell my mom that they have no idea what I want. We go back and forth. I make several inspiration boards that include yellow and brown mismatching dresses. After several email and phone conversations my sisters remind me that we are all very pale, and my idea of yellow and brown dresses eventually morphs into earthtones, and then into taupe/grey. Oldest Veggie Sis Kale decides that I am entirely too laid back about the whole affair, takes charge, makes a powerpoint with dress options, and gives the girls a kick in the butt. They all (including the veggie moms) run to their nearest mall or favorite online store and purchase new dresses.
To be fair, they all had a hearty dig through their closets before heading out to purchase something new, and have all assured me that they will definitely reuse the dresses they bought. So far, this is how it stands with one mom, one groomsmaid, and one veggie sis still yet to purchase their dresses.
Moms of Honor:
I don’t feel great about the eco impact of this part of our wedding, but I am happy with their choices and am glad that they’ve all found dresses that they will use again. What do you think? What direction should I steer my last three ladies in to pull the look together?
First there’s Mr. Veggie’s family. Nice and nuclear. Two parents. One brother. Niece. Nephew.
Then there’s my family.
*All photos personal photos.
We don’t even fit in one picture. I’ve got steps, halves, dads, moms, the works.
Why do bring this up? Well, because I am going to have all of my sisters as bridesmaids. Since I have moved around a lot in my adult life I have many good friends from all over. My friendships tend to come in waves, stronger some times with certain people, weaker sometimes, mostly depending on where I’m living at the moment, but my sisters have been a consistent force in my life since as long as I can remember. Plus they’re all really rad, amazing women. Who could ask for better bridesmaids?
That means four ladies for me. Mr. Veggie would like to have his brother stand on his side. 4-1.
I also am really close with my (very tall and shaggy haired) little brother. So, he needs to be in the wedding party. I’d love to have him stand on my side, but that brings the score to 5-1.
I guess it would be o.k. if my bro stood with the other dudes. It would also appease his sense of masculinity. 4-2
My brother-in-law (Veggie Sis K’s hubby) is a second brother to me. We even went on a road trip together this past summer without my sister since she had to work. But I feel like if I include him then I should also include Mr. Veggie’s sister-in-law who I also absolutely adore. 5-3
Wait, who’s going to be watching all those adorable little veggie sprouts while us grown-ups are doing wedding party duties? Maybe best to leave out the in-laws. 4-2
Bridal parties don’t have to be evenly matched. Right?
So, do we leave it at that? Four ladies and two guys? Or does Mr. Veggie recruit two extra dudes?
The problem is that a lot of his “dudes” are actually “dudettes”. He has several close girl friends, but not too many guy friends that he feels super close to anymore. The dudes he does feel close to are childhood friends and live overseas, so he feels bad asking them to take a major role in the wedding. Also, Mr. Veggie is a bit older than me, and many of his friends are older than him. Wouldn’t it be weird for one of his 50+ year old friends to escort my 20 year old sister down the aisle?
I don’t know… what would you do?
Part of the effort to minimize the ecological impact of our wedding is minimizing the purchases we make and that others make on our behalf. With that in mind, I knew early on that I wanted my bridesmaids to wear dresses that they would definitely wear again, and if possible, something from their own closet. If the shoppoing urge overwhelmed them, I would love it if they all bought from second-hand shops or showed up in eco-fabrics, but I have enough to worry about with my own dress.
Since my 4 sisters are my bridesmaids it should be easy enough for them to coordinate. I told them our colors: saffron, brown, and grey. And gave them these instructions “Mismatched-casual-anthro(pologie)-ish”.
I guess that wasn’t enough direction. With prompting from my Mama Veggie, who apparently was at the receiving end of some panicked phone calls, I thought I could offer them more guidance with… an inspiration board!
So, ladies, here you go. Make me proud.
Sources: Top Row (l-r): Jumping Groom, Yellow Dress, Indigo Dress, Bridesmaids, Cute Yellow Dress. Middle Row (l-r): Dark Vest Groom, Group Shot, Pink Bridesmaids; Bottom Row (l-r): Grey Vest Groom, Blue Bridesmaids, Bright Bridesmaids, Earthtone Bridesmaids, Dress with Bow, Yellow Dress, Grey Dress, Brown Dress